Compromising Effects

Compromising is very difficult. The reason I say this is because those involved each want their own way. The last argument I had was with my ex husband. We both wanted full custody of our child and the rights to the property. I was willing to compromise all entitlement to the property for full custody of my child. He wanted ne to compromise my rights to the property and custody of our child. That was not a good deal in my eyes. Therefore, it became a very uncompromising situation. Although, I have learned to take the positive approach to communication. I don't think it deems effective when the other person involved lacks the same effective communication skills.

Communication self perception vs what others see

The way I was evaluated in the verbal aggressive category showed that to those I come in contact with that I am fair and hold positions related to facts. I viewed myself as argumentative and an attacker when someone doesn't hold the same position as me.  We all agreed that I show empathy and concern to others. In communication anxiety I viewed myself as constitutional I care about some communication factors but not all. They both viewed me as comfortable and confident communicating in all situations. From these evaluations I learned that I am more confrontational than willing to listen. This shocked me because I always viewed myself as caring and willing to listen and provide effective communication. However, my mother and colleague view me as being the kind gentle communicator that I thought myself to be. Their perceptions helped me to see myself as a greater communicator than I viewed myself as. I feel comfortable in all areas of communication. However, I tend to be debatable and always see my side of things. They viewed me as the total opposite type of communicator. Yet we all agree that I am a great listener.  My own perception of myself is a lot stronger and firmer than what they actually see.

Different Communication

I sometimes catch my self speaking slower or with a distorted accent when I am speaking to someone with an accent different from mine or what I call broken English. I can often ear myself when I do so I try to stop and gain control over what I call mimicking.

Communication Idoled

My cousin Tracey Parker has excellent communication skills. I idol her skills because she has the ability to think, rationalize and comprise agreements. Her use of words reminds me of the video watched this week Change your words Change your world. She told me as child she would teach her self a new vocabulary word everyday. She would write the word, learn the meaning,learn the origin and frequently find chances to use it through out the week. She also a passion for music which in my opinion further creates her creative ability to communicate.

Purple Feather Online Content Specialists. (n.d.). Change your words, change your world. Retrieved from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnVbiTwkvp4&NR=1

If a major catastrophe occurred...

A major catastrophe has almost completely devastated the infrastructure of your country. The emergency government has decided that the surviving citizens will be best served if they are evacuated to other countries willing to take refugees. You and your immediate family are among the survivors of this catastrophic event. However, you have absolutely no input into the final destination or in any other evacuation details. You are told that your host country’s culture is completely different from your own, and that you might have to stay there permanently. You are further told that, in addition to one change of clothes, you can only take 3 small items with you...

The First Item I will take is my bible Because through Him all things are possible.
The next Item would be a family picture. I would like to remembered and have my grandchildren and even great great grands be able to see what who I am.
The last item would be my blanket. I have a blanket that has been passed through my family for years. I believe this blanket to my protection and hugs when I need to warmed and loved.

If they decided I can only take one item that would have to the blanket never know where I may end up.

My Connections to Play

“Play gives children a chance to practice what they are learning…They have to play with what they know to be true in order to find out more, and then they can use what they learn in new forms of play.” ~ Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood)

“Children need the freedom and time to play. Play is not a luxury. Play is a necessity.” Kay Redfield Jamison (professor of psychiatry)

                   

As a child my parents supported all of my play ideas I remember reading books and imaging I was the characters in those books. My parents never stopped me from playing. At times I was a princess ruling a palace at other time I was on a deserted Island no matter what my day was like or what game I decided to play my family supported and at times even joined in.

Today I feel as children do not use imagination the way others did back in time. Today's children are a lot more knowledgeable with technology and the Internet. Children are expected and required to know more in this day and time.

Relationship Reflection

The leader of the pact that has truly inspired my life is my mom. Growing up my mother supported everything I wanted to accomplish in life. Even if it was a dream she didn't agree with she continued to show her support. my mom instilled in me all the values I needed in life to become the woman I am today. Even til this day she still continues to encourage me and all my silly ideas.

My Mom

The next person that is the light of my life the reason why I continue to be strong and live everyday to be greater is for my loving daughter Amia. She impacts my life in ways that are priceless.

My beautiful daughter & me

My dad is the greatest person for me to talk to when I need the truth. He will give me his opinion uncut and raw and by no means will he be like my mom and encourage me to try if he thinks its not a good idea. My dad has been a great inspiration in my life even as a child. I remember getting sick and my dad and I would play a game called pass the cold. That where I had to give him all my sneezes and coughs and he would kiss away my cold until I passed it to him. He always said he was bigger and stronger and could tolerate being sick better than I could!

Lil bro & our dad

My younger brother is another person that gives me the love and support family is all about. When ever I need him he is always there. Although he is bigger than me I am still the BIG sister!!!

lil bro & me

Last but not least I can not forget my Chinese Crested dog Sprout. I love him for making me feel special when ever I am sad or down I can count on him to be there to make me smile

Sprout