Communication self perception vs what others see

The way I was evaluated in the verbal aggressive category showed that to those I come in contact with that I am fair and hold positions related to facts. I viewed myself as argumentative and an attacker when someone doesn't hold the same position as me.  We all agreed that I show empathy and concern to others. In communication anxiety I viewed myself as constitutional I care about some communication factors but not all. They both viewed me as comfortable and confident communicating in all situations. From these evaluations I learned that I am more confrontational than willing to listen. This shocked me because I always viewed myself as caring and willing to listen and provide effective communication. However, my mother and colleague view me as being the kind gentle communicator that I thought myself to be. Their perceptions helped me to see myself as a greater communicator than I viewed myself as. I feel comfortable in all areas of communication. However, I tend to be debatable and always see my side of things. They viewed me as the total opposite type of communicator. Yet we all agree that I am a great listener.  My own perception of myself is a lot stronger and firmer than what they actually see.

Different Communication

I sometimes catch my self speaking slower or with a distorted accent when I am speaking to someone with an accent different from mine or what I call broken English. I can often ear myself when I do so I try to stop and gain control over what I call mimicking.

Communication Idoled

My cousin Tracey Parker has excellent communication skills. I idol her skills because she has the ability to think, rationalize and comprise agreements. Her use of words reminds me of the video watched this week Change your words Change your world. She told me as child she would teach her self a new vocabulary word everyday. She would write the word, learn the meaning,learn the origin and frequently find chances to use it through out the week. She also a passion for music which in my opinion further creates her creative ability to communicate.

Purple Feather Online Content Specialists. (n.d.). Change your words, change your world. Retrieved from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnVbiTwkvp4&NR=1